Jesus 😭. I'm new here and I just had to reply, this was soooo good 😭. It's so well articulated and heart binding. Thank you for blessing me with this piece ❤️
It's important to heal before entering a relationship fr...imagine losing a potential life partner because of a crucial flaw you could've have worked on.
Girllll, How can I like this 5 more times pleaseeeeee!!!😭
If you have a problem, open your MOUTH and SPEAK FGSK!!!!
I never understood silent treatment, stonewallimg when there's a challenge, and these things ruin relationships very easily. If you have a communication problem, ALAYE please fix itttttt!!!!🙏🏾🥹
If you enter broken, insecure, and bitter, love won’t magically wash it away.
I hate the narrative of loving people to wholeness. No one is thinking about the person who keeps getting cut, trying to remain in a relationship with a mentally and emotionally draining person.
"…Spell it out. Say what you mean, mean what you say…" Constantly talking isn't necessarily communicating, they say. So, in a relationship, there's a need for adequate communication and not passing mixed messages. Because people can be oblivious to seemingly obvious cues if not communicated effectively, then we find ourselves “…half the time…defending [ourselves] in "court" because we found it hard to communicate efficiently. I guess that's why it's called courtship – we defend ourselves 😂😂, which shouldn't be.
So yeah, a relationship isn't a rehabilitation centre where you expect your partner to be the good doctor to help you heal, you need to work on yourself. Because, in the end of the day, you'd end up hurting yourself and the person in question.
Exactly! A relationship isn’t a hospital to fix people who need healing. Work on yourself first. You cannot pour into the cup of others when yours is empty.
From my first relationship I discovered that what someone is to you as a friend is way different than what they are to you as a lover.
If you need to heal do it before entering a relationship or you find yourself not just being the problem but you will find that the person you are even with is a mirror and the reflection isn't pretty to look at, at all
Most times we don’t even know that we have a problem that needs to be fixed. Self reflection is so important
Very true dear. Thank you for reading💕
"Because nobody can love you in a way that makes up for the love you refuse to give yourself"❤❤
Gloria!!!
You could’ve just called my name 😫😫
We’re usually not blind to our own mistakes and insecurities, we just expect the other party to accept us like that
This write up is mind blowingggggggg
So I should drop my bad character? 😞
Yes dear😂. Please do..
Jesus 😭. I'm new here and I just had to reply, this was soooo good 😭. It's so well articulated and heart binding. Thank you for blessing me with this piece ❤️
Thank you darling! Welcome to Substack! ❤️
It's important to heal before entering a relationship fr...imagine losing a potential life partner because of a crucial flaw you could've have worked on.
Girllll, How can I like this 5 more times pleaseeeeee!!!😭
If you have a problem, open your MOUTH and SPEAK FGSK!!!!
I never understood silent treatment, stonewallimg when there's a challenge, and these things ruin relationships very easily. If you have a communication problem, ALAYE please fix itttttt!!!!🙏🏾🥹
If you enter broken, insecure, and bitter, love won’t magically wash it away.
I hate the narrative of loving people to wholeness. No one is thinking about the person who keeps getting cut, trying to remain in a relationship with a mentally and emotionally draining person.
Loved this!!
"…Spell it out. Say what you mean, mean what you say…" Constantly talking isn't necessarily communicating, they say. So, in a relationship, there's a need for adequate communication and not passing mixed messages. Because people can be oblivious to seemingly obvious cues if not communicated effectively, then we find ourselves “…half the time…defending [ourselves] in "court" because we found it hard to communicate efficiently. I guess that's why it's called courtship – we defend ourselves 😂😂, which shouldn't be.
So yeah, a relationship isn't a rehabilitation centre where you expect your partner to be the good doctor to help you heal, you need to work on yourself. Because, in the end of the day, you'd end up hurting yourself and the person in question.
Exactly! A relationship isn’t a hospital to fix people who need healing. Work on yourself first. You cannot pour into the cup of others when yours is empty.
Thanks for stopping by…😃
I think this is really all of us..we mask our inadequacies by blaming others.
True. Thank you for reading 😀
Relationships really amplify what is hidden
From my first relationship I discovered that what someone is to you as a friend is way different than what they are to you as a lover.
If you need to heal do it before entering a relationship or you find yourself not just being the problem but you will find that the person you are even with is a mirror and the reflection isn't pretty to look at, at all
Whatever made you write this, had me in mind!!!
i will fix my spikes first
im crying im tired of getting my kindness being taken advantage if i do those things
"Say what you mean, mean what you say". Forever a mantra I live by.
Communication is indeed a virtue, a beautiful one at that.
We don't talk cos we don't want them to leave ...it turns out they'll leave still
To be honest, everyone is a walking red flag. The important thing is that, we're all ready to wash away the red stains for the person/people we love.