My eighteen year old self just got serve whiplash 😭 lmao! This dude liked the aesthetic of my “brain” and the aesthetic of my friend’s “body”!!!! Pour me water now😭😭
I personally think people are too lazy and are lacking enough self esteem/confidence to go after what they truly want. So, they choose what’s easy and try to transform them. How many times do we have to tell people you can’t change another grown adult human being. Great post.
When I ask who your celebrity crush is per body type, I know exactly what I am doing fine boy. I want to know what you like. You cannot come and be giving someone’s daughter undue pressure because she is not what you want.
Guyyy😭 i dated somebody that told his celebrity crudh was Tems and oh my dear I'm the exact opposite of Tems, he wanted md gym go get his dream body for me, he always asked if my mum was thick so he'd know if i had the genetics of having a big ass😂😭😭, I'm glad i caught myself quickly
As someone who has always been expanding despite my efforts not to, body shaming me has become something of normalcy for me and it’s not supposed to be, cause I’m literally still growing😩😔
This happened to me back in the day. I was 23. I posted a pic of me and a friend and the guy I was "dating" (whole 'nother story) told me my friend was cuter, more his type (or suggested something along those lines).
I was so insecure I did what your friend did. I laughed it off, thought it was cool that he felt he could be that honest with me and it wouldn't threaten what we had. I was also a fool. 😂
It's a manipulation tactic many men use. Many times he told me he made exceptions for me. But it's a way to get women to be insecure. The more insecure, the less assertive you become, the more flexible (to non existent) your boundaries and the more they can control you. It's not worth it. Your friend's boyfriend is a huge red flag.
The world would be much better if people just dated and married their spec.
There are So many people dying silently in bad relationships just because they settled for someone they're not even at least attracted to.
And as simple as it sounds, this issue is deeper than we think. I dunno when it started but for years people have been told that they can't have it all in a partner.
Chose a baddie or a good woman (as if baddies are bad women)
Marry for money or love (as if you can't have both). And it goes on and on.
So it's high time people rewire their brains to the fact that you would always find someone that has all the qualities that you need in a partner.
The worst is when they go "I don't normally date your (race/etc) but it didn't work out with (spec) girls so I'm trying something new." Or worse, "I'm just looking for a sprinkle of spice."
Him : I usually go for thick girls but I'm making an exception for you
Me : HELLO, GET DOWN
Me: Oga, on a straight line😂😂
Lmaooo 😭🤣
Like 😅😅😅😅😩
On a straight line!
My eighteen year old self just got serve whiplash 😭 lmao! This dude liked the aesthetic of my “brain” and the aesthetic of my friend’s “body”!!!! Pour me water now😭😭
Thank youuuuuuu
For this
Oh thank goodness someone has finally said it
You can't change yourself for someone who already has a type
Guyyy, one of my friend ended a relationship with her best friend
Because the best friend got upset that a guy she liked choose the best friend and not her
Now this guy in question likes thick girls (my friend is thick) and the other girl is slimmer... And she knows this and thought she could change him
So because the guy didn't choose her
She tried to sabotage the relationship leading to the friendship ending
All hits, yet again.
This cannot be overemphasized. Date your spec should be a movement.
Before I forget, your friend... lol
Lets leave that for the DMs
Girl …scream it !!!
Most relationships these days happen because of limerence
Before any relationship I always want to have an answer to that one question :
HOW DO YOU SEE ME?
I personally think people are too lazy and are lacking enough self esteem/confidence to go after what they truly want. So, they choose what’s easy and try to transform them. How many times do we have to tell people you can’t change another grown adult human being. Great post.
When I ask who your celebrity crush is per body type, I know exactly what I am doing fine boy. I want to know what you like. You cannot come and be giving someone’s daughter undue pressure because she is not what you want.
Same goes for ladies that do it to the men.
Guyyy😭 i dated somebody that told his celebrity crudh was Tems and oh my dear I'm the exact opposite of Tems, he wanted md gym go get his dream body for me, he always asked if my mum was thick so he'd know if i had the genetics of having a big ass😂😭😭, I'm glad i caught myself quickly
Sorry whatttt??
Never resonated with something so deeply!!
Damn this hit really hard and has me checking myself too😭😭.
This newsletter is everything!!
Been there, done that. But you see now?? You no fit see me for that kain settings.
Also, why did your friend think that was funny? The yeye guy is putting her down and she's shining her teeth 😭 O wrong nau
This is a very sensitive topic for me😔🥹
As someone who has always been expanding despite my efforts not to, body shaming me has become something of normalcy for me and it’s not supposed to be, cause I’m literally still growing😩😔
This happened to me back in the day. I was 23. I posted a pic of me and a friend and the guy I was "dating" (whole 'nother story) told me my friend was cuter, more his type (or suggested something along those lines).
I was so insecure I did what your friend did. I laughed it off, thought it was cool that he felt he could be that honest with me and it wouldn't threaten what we had. I was also a fool. 😂
It's a manipulation tactic many men use. Many times he told me he made exceptions for me. But it's a way to get women to be insecure. The more insecure, the less assertive you become, the more flexible (to non existent) your boundaries and the more they can control you. It's not worth it. Your friend's boyfriend is a huge red flag.
The world would be much better if people just dated and married their spec.
There are So many people dying silently in bad relationships just because they settled for someone they're not even at least attracted to.
And as simple as it sounds, this issue is deeper than we think. I dunno when it started but for years people have been told that they can't have it all in a partner.
Chose a baddie or a good woman (as if baddies are bad women)
Marry for money or love (as if you can't have both). And it goes on and on.
So it's high time people rewire their brains to the fact that you would always find someone that has all the qualities that you need in a partner.
(Don't let anyone tell you otherwise).
The worst is when they go "I don't normally date your (race/etc) but it didn't work out with (spec) girls so I'm trying something new." Or worse, "I'm just looking for a sprinkle of spice."
I am not a fucking pepper mill.
Fuckkkkk, I read it all
You write really well, I was hooked
Took a course or something?
Thank you 💕
Hello on a straight line 😧😭